Choosing Your Wedding Party

Congratulations you are getting married. For those of you that have been planning your wedding since you were 10 years old, you may already know who the members of your wedding party will be. However, this is not the case for everyone. While it may seem like it will be an easy task, it is one that you should take seriously. It is imperative that you surround yourself with people that will be supportive and that are important to you. These should be individuals that will be in your life for a long time to come. When you look back at your wedding pictures, the people you see in your photos should still be a meaningful part of your life.

You will want to start by asking yourself questions like, how large should our wedding party be, which roles will they play and what should you expect from each of them? These are important questions because planning a wedding is an involved process and the members of your wedding party will have a lot of involvement in this process. Therefore, you want to pick people that will be positive and give you the support to help you make the decisions you will need to make. I would suggest thinking long and hard about the people you want in your wedding party. I suggest waiting until the actual wedding planning process begins before asking attendants. You never know how much can change between the moment you get engaged and the planning process. Take time to make well thought out decisions.

You and your fiancée should make a list with the pros and cons of all the people you are considering. For example, will you get frustrated with those that have family or work commitments that keep them from participating the way you would like? When asking someone to be a member of the wedding party you don’t want to make spontaneous choices. You also want to make sure you make decisions based on you and your fiancée’s wishes alone. Don’t invite members to be in your wedding party based on the wishes of others are because you feel indebted to someone. Adding members to your wedding party because you want an even number of attendants isn’t a good reason to ask someone to participate.

Make sure you choose wisely from the beginning. Once you make this decision there is no easy way out. You do not want to remove people or make changes to your party unless there has been a serious falling out. Asking someone to step down or replacing them in the wedding party may cause hurt feelings and cause unnecessary stress at a time when you should be stress free.

Remember, this is your wedding day and it will be everything that you dreamed. As long as you slow down, make well thought out and non-emotional decisions your day will be seamless.